When Silence Feels Safer

How we address the cost of avoidance

I’ve noticed something: when the conversation turns to patriarchy, a lot of folks go quiet. Not because they don’t care, because stepping into these conversations feels risky. It’s easier to stay comfortable, to say, “I’m not part of the problem,” and keep moving.

What does that silence cost?

When we avoid the word patriarchy because it feels too “charged,” we reinforce the very system we claim to reject. It’s not just about theory—it’s about the real-life consequences of that discomfort. It’s the leaders who hesitate to challenge toxic norms. The teams who fail to create inclusive spaces. The opportunities for growth we miss because we fear getting it wrong.

Here’s the thing: if you are afraid of saying the wrong thing, you’re not alone. The most powerful leaders I know are the ones who step into that discomfort anyway. Not because it’s easy, because it is necessary.

So, the question isn’t “Will I get this perfectly right?” It’s “Am I willing to listen, learn, and lead differently?”

Because the world is changing. And real leadership means being part of that change—even when it’s uncomfortable.

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Today’s message is short and sweet like an espresso shot.

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