Stop Asking for Context When You Could Search for It Yourself
How what looks like inconsequential actions that causes extractive labor
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Let’s talk about the phrase “What’s the context?”
On the surface, it seems harmless, maybe even inquisitive. But too often, it’s a covert refusal to take responsibility for your own acquisition of knowledge. It’s a question that often comes from a place of doubt, disguised as curiosity, and loaded with the weight of privilege.
Here’s What That Looks Like in Action:
Instead of reflecting on what’s being shared, you demand someone else spoon-feed you a history lesson.
Instead of taking five seconds to search and learn for yourself, you delegate the labor of your understanding to someone else.
Instead of questioning why you didn’t already know about this topic, you center yourself by acting as though the information owes you clarity on your terms.
And here’s the kicker: Many of you aren’t actually seeking understanding. You’re setting up an argument. You’re waiting to discredit, dismantle, or dismiss the point being made—all while hiding behind the veneer of “just asking questions.”
It’s lazy. It’s arrogant. And it’s a form of social extraction.
The Haka in New Zealand: A Case in Point
When the Haka was performed in New Zealand’s parliament following the general election, the moment was rich with cultural significance and history. It was a powerful expression of solidarity and resistance—of voices that refuse to be silenced.
And yet, for many outside of New Zealand, the immediate reaction wasn’t to understand the gravity of the moment. It was to ask, “What’s the context?”
But here’s the thing: The Haka isn’t new.
It’s deeply tied to Māori culture and has been visible for decades in everything from protests to sports.
If you’re asking what it means, it’s not because the knowledge isn’t available—it’s because you haven’t taken the time to engage with it before now.
Moments like this aren’t invitations for extraction. They’re opportunities to educate yourself and reflect on why you’re unfamiliar with something so significant in the first place.
Accountability Is the Only Answer
The world doesn’t owe you context. People brave enough to bring issues to your attention don’t owe you a comprehensive breakdown of the topic. The systems of inequity we’re fighting thrive on people failing to take responsibility for their own education.
If you see something that sparks your interest, raises questions, or feels incomplete:
Do your own research. A quick search can provide the context you’re asking for without burdening someone else.
Ask better questions. Not “What’s the context?” but “What can I learn about this on my own? Why didn’t I know this before? What perspectives am I missing?”
Check your intention. Are you genuinely seeking to understand, or are you looking for ways to invalidate someone’s point?
The Challenge
If you’re reading this and feeling defensive, lean into that discomfort. Ask yourself:
How often do I rely on others to spoon-feed me understanding instead of taking initiative?
How often do I use “asking for context” as a way to shift the burden of explanation onto someone else?
What could I learn if I stopped waiting for people to hand me all the answers?
Start owning your curiosity.
Start respecting the labor it takes for others to speak up and educate.
Use your critical thinking skills and stop expecting the world to tailor its knowledge to your convenience.
Because here’s the truth: The real work starts when you stop demanding context and start building your own.
Here is a whole series on extractive thinking.
The Cost of Extraction: A World Out of Balance
How will we approach »»» Reclaiming Balance and who is willing to face the consequences of extractive thinking in a world of shared resources?
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I’ve never really understood not doing research, and making sure they are from reputable sources. I’m a librarian. It’s what I do.