Matriarchal Leadership: 6 Personalizing Matriarchal Leadership

Core Pillars of Matriarchal Leadership

Matriarchal Leadership—Returning to the Power of Collective Wisdom

Beyond hierarchy. Beyond domination. Leadership as it was meant to be—rooted in balance, reciprocity, and collective strength.

I didn’t learn leadership in a boardroom.
I learned it in a small town—one I’d known as a child through the lens of my grandparents, but now, as a young mother, it felt unfamiliar. Different. Quiet in the wrong ways. Numb in the places that should have felt alive.

Back then, I was mothering a baby turning into a toddler—learning to really listen. Not just with my ears, but with my body. With my energy. With my sense of what was missing beneath the surface of conversations, businesses, and community dynamics that seemed stuck in cycles of invisibility.

It didn’t happen all at once. It never does.

That was the beginning of something for me—not just parenting, but practicing.
Practicing matriarchal leadership. Not because I had the language for it yet, but because I was already living it.
Sensing what others missed.
Noticing the places where care should be—and wasn’t.
Creating something new from what I could hear in the silence.

If you’re reading this and realizing just how far you feel from being “deconditioned,”
I want to offer you this truth:
We return to this way of leading in stages, in cycles, in phases. Not all at once.

That’s the work of matriarchal leadership.
It meets you where you are.
And it invites you to lead—right from there.

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If you’ve been following this series, you know we’ve been weaving together ancestral memory, cross-cultural wisdom, and systemic unlearning.

And if you’re just arriving now—welcome. You’re not late.

Matriarchal leadership is not linear, and this post stands beautifully on its own.

Still, I invite you to revisit earlier entries if you want the full arc. We’ve explored what matriarchal leadership really is, how it’s shown up across cultures, the ways patriarchy distorted it, and what it looks like in practice today.

Here are links to 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5.

But here, in this moment, we’re shifting the focus inward.
This post is not just about matriarchal leadership as a concept—it’s about you.
How it lives in your bones. How you practice it in small, radical ways.
How you become it.

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What to Expect in This Series

This is a 7 part series for Leaders + Learners where you and I take an honest look at “Matriarchal Leadership” series.

Here is a succinct outline of what you can expect in this first of seven posts in this series here on Verbal Vortexes.

Thank you for joining me and my mind-heart-gut approach to where we can do the work both internally (with our inner game) and externally (our expression the outer game)

Series Outline:

1. Reclaiming Matriarchal Leadership: What It Really Means «(Click to read)

2. Matriarchal Leadership Across Cultures and Time: Where Matriarchal Structures Thrive «(Click to read)

3. The Core Pillars of Matriarchal Leadership—Returning the Power of Collective Women «(Click to read)

4. How Patriarchy Hijacked Leadership and How We Take It Back «(Click to read)

5. Matriarchal Leadership in Practice: How We Lead Differently «(Click to read)

6. Personalizing Matriarchal Leadership: What This Means for You

7. Matriarchal Leadership for the Future

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Leadership Begins in the Body

We’ve explored what matriarchal leadership looks like across cultures, lineages, and systems. But now, we bring it home. Not to the external structures we hope to change—but to the internal ones we’re already reshaping.

This is the turning point.
This is the post where it gets personal.

Because matriarchal leadership isn’t something we watch from afar—it’s something we embody, reimagine, and reparent in real time.

How do you lead—when no one is watching?
When you're exhausted?
When you're called to be the pattern-breaker your lineage needed?

Leadership is not just a role.
It’s a relationship.
And matriarchal leadership begins with how you choose to relate.

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Matriarchal Leadership is Not a Job—It’s a Way of Being

Let’s be clear:
You don’t need a title to lead.
You don’t need to be in the spotlight to hold power.
You don’t need to climb the ladder—you may choose to burn it down.

Matriarchal leadership asks:

• How do you hold power with—not over?

• How do you practice care with boundaries?

• How do you lead in your home, your team, your community, your own nervous system?

This is not leadership for applause.
It is leadership for alignment.

Bonus for Founding Members: Healing the Wounds of Leadership

If this post is resonating deeply…
If you’ve been carrying the heaviness of always being “the strong one,” “the responsible one,” “the leader who holds it all”—
Then the bonus piece is for you.

Coming soon for founding subscribers only:

“The Role of Matriarchs in Healing Leadership Wounds”
A more intimate reflection on the emotional labor, grief, and repair required to lead differently.

Become a founding member and receive access to the bonus post, private community prompts, and early invitations to upcoming sessions:
Subscribe now & reclaim your place in the circle.

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Everyday Matriarchal Leadership Looks Like...

In Business

• Designing systems where rest is not earned—it’s built in.

• Making decisions that redistribute power and prioritize long-term impact.

• Leading with relational accountability, not performative hierarchy.

In Community

• Listening before solving.

• Holding space for contradiction and complexity.

• Honoring grief, rage, and joy as valid parts of the collective process.

In Relationships

• Practicing radical reciprocity.

• Leading hard conversations without resorting to control.

• Choosing connection over coercion, even when it’s messy.

You don’t have to lead like the world trained you to.
You get to lead like the world you’re here to build.

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What Are You Unlearning?

This is also where we gently name the residue we carry.

What matriarchal leadership often requires is not more knowledge—it’s less attachment to old survival strategies.

Maybe you’re unlearning:

• Hustling to prove your worth

• Leading through hyper-functioning

• Being the “fixer” to feel needed

And reclaiming:

• Rest as resistance

• Intuition as intelligence

• Boundaries as love in action

This is a homecoming. Not a performance.

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Reconnecting with Ancestral Leadership

You may not know their names.
But they know you.

Matriarchal leadership is also about remembering. And you don’t need perfect records or DNA kits to do that. You just need to listen inward. To your dreams. To the Earth. To the memory beneath memory.

Try this: